Fake Online Dating Profiles – How to Avoid Getting Catfished

I was at a friend’s house the other day and he told me about a friend of his who was completely crushed because the guy she had fell in love with, after ONLY knowing him via a dating site online, was fake.  I don’t know the whole story and I don’t need to.  All I knew is that this woman met a guy online and fell in love after only communicating online.  They never talked on the phone.  Every time they were supposed to meet in person he came up with an excuse and backed out.

I’m trying to feel an ounce of compassion for this woman, but I can’t.  Maybe I’m jaded and bitter, but I just think she’s ridiculously foolish for letting herself fall for person who she had never met.  Are people that desperate that they think a few months of emailing = true love.  I know she’s not the first person this has happened to and she won’t likely be the last.

Here are a few basic red flags  to look out for to make sure you’re not a candidate for an episode of Catfish.    I’m not saying that everyone who falls into the categories below is a fake, just a warning sign, especially if your new online love has two or more of the following.

1.  Pictures
Does the person just have one picture that looks like it’s a professional “glamour shot” or a fuzzy picture that is hard to see?   Real legitimate profiles will typically have a mix of professional head shots and then pictures of people in social settings.

2.  Profile
Short, non descriptive profile.

3.  They Sound too Good to be True
If someone sounds too good to be true right out of the gate, they probably are and it’s all a lie.  No one is perfect and if they were, I doubt they would be online dating and talking themselves up that much.  Most people who are all that don’t need to brag about it.

4.  Avoiding Live Meetings
At some point, you are going to have to meet live.  If someone keeps having emergencies and backing out of dates is a big sign that they are either completely fake, look WAY different than their photo or they are not really that into you.

5.  Asking for Money!
Never, never, never randomly give money to someone you’ve just met online.  It’s extremely creepy that someone would ask.  Especially a guy.  They might make up some desperate story and make you feel sorry for them. Likely the story isn’t true.

So there you have it.  Hope’s guide to smoking out fake online dating profiles.  Happy hunting!


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One Response to “Fake Online Dating Profiles – How to Avoid Getting Catfished”

  1. I think it is often a case of someone being that desperate. Sometimes we are just too desperate to have someone that we overlook the signs because we don’t want to see them. I think it happens in all relationships even when you do meet face to face. It’s sad that people do this to other people intentionally though, sometimes as nothing but a cruel joke.